Asgodom Coaching My Way

1. Auflage 2014
ISBN: 978-3-86623-520-5
Verlag: Kreutzfeldt digital
Format: EPUB
Kopierschutz: 0 - No protection

E-Book, Englisch, 224 Seiten

25 Surprising Impulses Which Pave the Road to Success

Sabine Asgodam is one of the most acclaimed management coaches in Germany. This book, which is finally available in English, offers practical insights and recommendations as to how to successfully coach: What problems need to be solved? How can you come up with new ideas? How can you define worthwhile goals? What strategies should you consider? How can conflicts with others be resolved?

In "Coaching My Way" Sabine Asgodom describes her SOFTCo method (Solution Oriented Fast Tip Coaching). In this book you'll find 25 practical, individually adaptable coaching impulses which are effective in both private and professional surroundings. Each and every one of these are essential building blocks in Sabine Asgodoms method for coaching clients. Concrete examples are offered to show how you can quickly initiate step-by-step development. Valuable advice is given to prepare you for the ins and outs of both coaching others and self-coaching.

A self-assessment test is included that allows you to see if you could be a good coach for friends, relatives and colleagues.

Autoren/Hrsg.

Asgodom, Sabine

Inhaltsverzeichnis

Introduction: Coaching Impulses
SOFTCo - Solution Oriented Fast Tip Coaching in Practice
My Way to Coaching
How Does Coaching Actually Work?
The Inner Coach: Talk to Yourself and Make Progress
Think … and Take Action!
Change in Five Minutes?
Eight Principles of Coaching
Test: Are You a Good Coach?

Solutions With Methods
SOFTCo Strategy 1: Find Solutions - Your Own Solutions!
SOFTCo Strategy 2: Offer Orientation - Perspective Makes People Happy
SOFTCo Strategy 3: Keep It Short and Simple (KISS)

25 Coaching Impulses
1. The Alternative Wheel
2. The Camel Path Strategy
3. The Genie Generator
4. The Kitchen Table Overview
5. The Madonna Method
6. Anger Management
7. The Motivation Grid
8. The Yes-But-Technique
9. Shit Happens
10. Happy Hour
11. The 3-Million Dollar Game
12. The 7-A-Method
13. Who's Leading Here?
14. Vivid Visions
15. Puzzle of Life
16. The Swarm Intelligence Kick
17. Strength Finder
18. The Wish List
19. Un-mess Your Mind
20. Someone Else's Shoes
21. The Happiness Curve
22. The Triple Jump to Change
23. I'm Not a Fool
24. The Power of Acceptance
25. The Tiny Step Technique

Managers as Coaches: The Courage to be Human
From Critic to Coach
From "Push" to "Pull"

Would You Like to be a Coach?
Tips for Professional Coaches
Gratitude Makes People Happy
About the Author
References

Leseproben

How Does Coaching Actually Work?
There are varied opinions on this – or rather, let’s called them ‘schools of thought’. I would like, therefore, to talk in particular about my way of coaching, my SOFTCo method, Solution Oriented Fast Tip Coaching. Before I start, let me tell you a little story: Your neighbour is not happy. She complains to you about her husband, who does nothing at home: “He stands in front of the open fridge door and can’t find the butter.” And about their two sons who keenly mimic their father: “Mom, where are my football boots?” She complains that her half-day job in a small company “is nothing sensible at all.” She complains about a colleague that’s bullying her, and on and on she goes ... How often and for how long can you listen to that? Perhaps your range of tolerance lies between “oh, just get lost ...” to “shame, she’s got nobody else, the poor woman.” If you’re a nice person, you listen patiently each time, nod agreeably, make simple utterances like “mmm”, “aha” and “oh”, and hope that you’ll also get a word in some time. If you’re not such a nice person, you try and avoid the whining neighbour at all costs, because she just complains and nothing ever changes. People need other people as understanding listeners. Sometimes they need other people to console them, sometimes as a lightning conductor, sometimes to play the “wailing wall”, sometimes they need someone to spur them on and sometimes they need advisors. And then there are situations where they need someone to help them get out of a rut they find themselves in. Or perhaps to turn general desires into concrete targets. They need someone to get them over their helplessness, rage or powerlessness. A person to take their suffering, anger, helplessness and lack of orientation, their desires and wishes seriously, and to help them find solutions and a way of getting from “misery to magic”, in a face-to-face discussion. “Dear Friend, I suggest that we meet up one evening and I’ll help you think about how you can improve your situation so that you feel good again.” That’s called COACHING! I know that many coach colleagues will vehemently denounce what I’m saying: “Now now, Ms Asgodom, that is extremely simplistic.” Yes, it is! Because I have not written this book for psychologists, therapists and professional coaches; I’ve written it for every man and woman out there. And I can already hear some stern colleagues saying: “Coaching requires an in-depth qualification with a founded psychological, therapeutic, systemic or neuro-linguistic-programming background. Surely not every Tom, Dick and Sally can call themselves coaches. Indeed they can! Mr Tom and Mrs Sally are more than capable of helping other people to find solutions. Coaching is not a secret code that one has to be let in on. Coaching is not a science that one has to study for years. Coaching is an art, that in particular has to do with attentiveness, mindfulness and humanity. Of course, in addition to this, one requires other special abilities:   ?  Sensing what it’s really about ?  Reflecting what’s up ?  Being aware of what cajoles and/or hinders me (or someone else) ?  Recognising the games behind the stories (why does someone get so worked up about someone/something?) ?  Creating alternatives for future-oriented action ?  Developing perspectives ?  Developing enthusiasm for people’s own solutions ?  Recognising links between thoughts ?  Unravelling “yes-but chains” (“Yes, you know what’s right, but you don’t do it.”)   In this book, I tell you in more detail how each of these things work. And once again: What I say here about coaching is not gospel. Instead I describe my experiences, especially those from short coaching sessions. These offer the chance to find solutions really quickly and to implement them relatively quickly too. And I want to encourage, in fact to empower people who have a coaching talent – yes, they do exist – to make something of it. My SOFTCo method, which I also call “High-speed Coaching”, is particularly suited to finding crystal clear solutions in record time. That suits my work very well, because many of my clients are very committed to their jobs, don’t have unlimited time and belong rather to the impatient and deed-orientated group of people. To date, with this method, I have helped over 700 coaching clients (mostly in two or four hour sessions – seldom in eight hours) find solutions that are right for them, for amongst other issues:   ?  finding their dream job ?  becoming a member of the government ?  saving their marriage ?  becoming a best-selling author ?  mastering crises at work ?  finding new career orientation ?  doubling their income (and even tripling it) ?  leaving unhappy situations where there is no prospect of improvement ?  setting up a company ?  agreeing to arbitration in conflicts with their parents ?  taking a sabbatical and developing themselves ?  improving their relationships with colleagues ?  recognising their own life’s wishes ?  gaining clarity for important decisions ?  being promoted ?  raising their incomes radically in self-employment   Coaching deals with real life issues, not trivialities, which, despite the short time, can be clearly discussed and for which solutions can be found. The most important ingredients for this are: a perspective, a plan and positive action – so that the person can start acting. This ultra-fast coaching method is clearly not suited for all-encompassing wishes like, “My whole life has to change!” Therefore, a part of my art is working on formulating a concrete desire for change. After an initial discussion, my clients get a questionnaire, in which, among other things, they describe their situation, reflect on their abilities and wishes, and very importantly, in which they give me a very clear coaching order. Very often they tell me in the actual session that simply filling out the form was already a step in the right direction. I also ask the guests on my TV show in Germany, “What exactly do you need a solution for?” It is clear that within five to eight minutes, one can only give the first impulse for change. It is possible, however, to find that one deciding impulse that really helps the guest on his/her way. My focus is on generating practical ideas for implementation. What helps me here is that I am not just a coach – also a trainer. Over the past 20 years, I have trained thousands of people in various seminars.* Naturally, some training elements creep into my coaching sessions (in the same way that more and more coaching elements are entering the realm of training.) I find that they enrich coaching sessions in that they talk to the fantasy side of people, allow pictures to develop in one’s head and open new perspectives. By the way: my journalism studies have been very helpful too. I learned to get to the point on things really quickly!   * Thousands sounds like a gross exaggeration, but here, just one example: for the past seven years, I have been doing five seminars a year with forty participants in each for just one German listed company. Here alone I reach 200 participants every year – times nine and there are already 1800. And this is just ONE client.   And that is what differentiates coaching from much psychotherapy. You know already: coaching is not therapy! It’s not about dealing with or healing mental illness. To do that, many therapists go way back into the childhoods of their clients. In such an approach, there is time and space to tell much from the past. And time to think of old grievances and key moments that determined the rest of their lives. My coaching involves a view of the future. Or as the father of Positive Psychology, American Professor, Martin E. Seligman says: “We are not driven by the past, but drawn by the future.” Coaching therefore, concerns looking at the future.   Here’s an example from my TV coaching series: A very pleasant man is a guest in the studio. He wants to be coached, because his flat is full of things and he cannot bring himself to throw anything away. He’s brought a photo along on which you can see that in the otherwise well-kept flat, there are things all over the place, except on the bed. He collects books and things from the flea market ranging from teddy bears to typewriters. How exactly does he think I can help him? “I’d really like to invite someone around again. What can I do?” I first explain that I am not a therapist and that we’re not going to do therapy. It is not important for this session WHY he collects all these things or whether he had too few toys as a child. My brief from him is that he’d like to get things sorted out so that he can invite someone around again. In my preparation, of course I thought about what may help him. I developed a few ideas and will just see what transpires! I let him draw his apartment on a board … table, cupboard, shelves, another table, bed, kitchen...

Über Autor(innen)

Sabine Asgodom, CSP, is one of the most acclaimed management coaches in German-speaking countries. In 1999, while working successfully as a journalist, she founded her own company "Asgodom Live" in Munich, Germany. Currently, Sabine Asgodom teaches self-PR at the University of Cooperative Education in Heidenheim and at GSA University. The "Financial Times Germany" has called her the "Trainer of Managers", ranking her among the 101 most important women of German Business.

Sabine Asgodom is acclaimed for her accomplishments as a trainer for a variety of companies and associations, frequently speaking at seminars and workshops, coaching executives towards success in politics, economy and even showbiz, and performing as a popular keynote speaker at conferences and events throughout Germany, Switzerland and Austria. In 2012 she founded the "Asgodom Coach Academy" for the coaches of tomorrow and for those who wish to improve their coaching skills. From 2015 on she will also offer coach-training courses in English.

In 2009 Sabine Asgodom earned her "Certified Speaking Professional" certification at the International Federation for Professional Speakers IFFPS. She was the first keynote speaker from Continental Europe to gain this honor. Sabine Asgodom has written 30 books which have been translated into numerous languages and over a half million copies have been sold.